All guys will or have already had one. You know the girls, the ones that aren’t really in touch with reality (CRAZY). The girls that hear you say one thing and interpret it for another. The girl you wish you had never met. To be fair, everybody is capable of becoming the psychotic ex. Guys and girls, yes you. We all possess the right ingredients to become a  stalker LOL!!!

1. Jealousy
2. anger
3. Possessiveness
4. infatuation

However there is one ingredient that we have the most control over that will determine our ability to accept graciously…….a BREAK-UP.   And it’s WEAKNESS. The strength of ones self and emotions will influence your character. If you succumb to the pain and grief of losing the one (you assume without consent), to be your SOULMATE, then unfortunately you are the “WEAKEST LINK” and shall therefore do and say anything to get them back.

If you find that the person you’re so in love infatuated with, does not return affection and makes it clear that they no longer want to be with you, but you refuse to accept their feelings, then you are possibly obsessed. If you find that the said “LOVE-OF-YOUR-LIFE” has moved on but you assume this to be a strategy on their part to get you back or make you jealous? You may fall in the “psycho” category and may need professional help. Let me assist, if I may in helping you determine your placement:-

1. If upon hearing that your ex has moved on, almost automatically and you proceed to call him 100 times a day, (most times when he is in the presence of his new girlfriend) to make idol threats and attempt to insult both him and his new love at 3 IN THE MORNING; you may need professional help.

2. If you call your ex threatening to kill yourself JUST DO IT ALREADY if he doesn’t come back to you, but he is unmoved by your attempt, or just plain, doesn’t care. Its time for that professional help.

3. If you text him constantly begging for his attention/affection or assistance, but he never responds. Give up, he isn’t interested in helping you, but the therapist will: GET HELP

4. If you continue to tell friends and family members that you and your guy are in fact still dating, long after you two broke up or post OLD pics on your myspace or facebook to make it appear to the public that everything is all right in the relationship, so much so that you convince yourself that there might still be a chance to reconcile (to which there is not a chance in hell)  you just might be crazy: GET HELP

5.  If you were constantly begging your ex to have a baby and get married but he refused. Its not you, its just he doesn’t love you, and doesn’t really consider you the one. Unfortunately man was cursed with free-will.

6. If you scheme on you ex in attempt to get him to be jealous enough to pay attention to you, but it backfires and he kicks your ass to the curve. Let it go. Even though the break-up was initially your fault…you shouldn’t have to do scandalous shit to get his attention, he never really wanted to be with you anyways.

Simply put, avoid the embarrassment, shame and disappointment of finally realizing after all the wasted time YOU WILL NEVER GET HIM BACK, by accepting the unchangeable. Focus on moving on and getting over it. Nothing you do will make a person love you anymore than they do. Love is based solely on one’s heart and my dear……… the heart cannot be manipulated. Stop embarrassing yourself, save face or at least a little bit of pride and grow up already. HE NEVER REALLY LOVED YOU.

On the bright side, you’re still alive and well and you’ll have another chance at love…but with changes. Don’t waste time and energy chasing a lost cause. The time you waste trying to get your ex back, you may just miss the one god made for you, but HONEY HE AIN’T IT.

2 B Continued…….

Reka Cartwright

Editor-In-Chief, Blogger, Freelance Writer [Ca Mari Magazine, e-life242 Magazine], Island 102.9FM’s Fame Fridays Radio Show Host, Co-Host Roots & Culture TV Show, Event Reviewer, Critic, Law Student, Paralegal